It’s not uncommon for couples to be annoyed by each other sometimes and there are reasons why as well as ways to deal with it. There’s a reason the saying “I love you, but I don’t like your right now” exists. So, before you throw in the towel here are some reasons why you and your partner may be driving each other crazy and what to do about it:
- You’re in clashing phases. Being in different stages of your emotional growth can throw couples out of sync. The fix? Try identifying the different phases you’re each in and discuss how to accommodate both individuals' needs during this time. Have a hard chat and assess if this is a long-term lack of compatibility or a phase.
- Increasing stress. Stress makes people cranky and less tolerant of the little annoying stuff. The fix? Tamp down stress with activities you love like walking. Share with your boo why you are touchy before things get out of hand.
- Loathing your partner during a fight. It’s totally normal to feel this way. You may not like confrontation, so that makes it worse. The fix? Resolve your issues quickly and respectfully.
- One of you wants your space. Sometimes we need personal space and autonomy. If you don’t like being around your SO, it may be because they’ve invaded your “me” time. The fix? Set boundaries and explain them.
- Reacting to hurtful behavior. This happens from time to time and your reaction, if not extreme, is valid. The fix? Be honest and share why the behavior is hurtful. Find ways to change the negative association with a positive one.